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Sunday, April 13, 2008
Startling reality
6:30 PM | 
Posted by
Christine
Today, A and I took the train downtown to see Wes and his wife, who were in town from Cincinnati for the weekend. As always, it was great to see them, and a bit humbling to have A hear stories of some of the stupid things I did in high school. Wes is the only person I still talk to from those days, but he has enough stories to bring me down in a serious way. Thank God he's benevolent enough to refrain from doing so.
Although my ears were aching from the wind by the time we got back on the train (still not feeling 100% after the crud yet), it was a beautiful day. We ate pizza, walked and talked, and generally had a grand time.
Except for one little thing that bothered me.
And it bothers me more and more as I think about it.
As we were walking to lunch, we were talking about how nice it would be to move into the city. I mentioned that after A gets out of school and moves out, I'm seriously considering doing so. Find a nice little northside neighborhood, move out of the burbs, live the city life for a while, blah blah blah...
And out of nowhere, A hit me in the head with a frying pan.
"I might be gone sooner than you think! Maybe at high school!"
My head whipped around. "What? Where do you think you're going?"
"Dad wants to move to Las Vegas. Maybe I'll go with him! By the time I'm 16, I can drive. Then I can just go be there with him and live in the desert!"
I paused.
Now, the man has mentioned his desire to move to Vegas. It's not been a secret. A time frame has never been discussed, but I've always assumed that it was several years down the road. And the topic of A leaving me before he's out of school has never, ever come up.
Ever.
I brushed it off and kept walking. Of course it's not going to happen, right? That's dumb. My ex never follows through on what he says he's going to do. It's the nature of the beast, and one of the reasons we're divorced. What a silly idea.
pffffffft.
But on the train, A started talking about it again. It seems that serious thought has already been put into this without my knowledge. They're talking of leaving me.
He figures he could come visit me for a while over the summers and on holidays. I won't miss him too much, because I've already had him living with me most of the time for years. It would be nice if dad could have his turn, you know?
No, I didn't know. I guess I do now, though.
I've tried to call his dad twice since we got home. He's not answering.
We need to talk.
Although my ears were aching from the wind by the time we got back on the train (still not feeling 100% after the crud yet), it was a beautiful day. We ate pizza, walked and talked, and generally had a grand time.
Except for one little thing that bothered me.
And it bothers me more and more as I think about it.
As we were walking to lunch, we were talking about how nice it would be to move into the city. I mentioned that after A gets out of school and moves out, I'm seriously considering doing so. Find a nice little northside neighborhood, move out of the burbs, live the city life for a while, blah blah blah...
And out of nowhere, A hit me in the head with a frying pan.
"I might be gone sooner than you think! Maybe at high school!"
My head whipped around. "What? Where do you think you're going?"
"Dad wants to move to Las Vegas. Maybe I'll go with him! By the time I'm 16, I can drive. Then I can just go be there with him and live in the desert!"
I paused.
Now, the man has mentioned his desire to move to Vegas. It's not been a secret. A time frame has never been discussed, but I've always assumed that it was several years down the road. And the topic of A leaving me before he's out of school has never, ever come up.
Ever.
I brushed it off and kept walking. Of course it's not going to happen, right? That's dumb. My ex never follows through on what he says he's going to do. It's the nature of the beast, and one of the reasons we're divorced. What a silly idea.
pffffffft.
But on the train, A started talking about it again. It seems that serious thought has already been put into this without my knowledge. They're talking of leaving me.
He figures he could come visit me for a while over the summers and on holidays. I won't miss him too much, because I've already had him living with me most of the time for years. It would be nice if dad could have his turn, you know?
No, I didn't know. I guess I do now, though.
I've tried to call his dad twice since we got home. He's not answering.
We need to talk.
5 comments:
It was grand to see you yesterday, as it is always grand to see you.
And yes, I wondered on the long drive back to Cincinnati if anything was going to come of that conversation.
You know where we are if you need to unload.
WF
Thanks, my dear :)
My biggest fear, really, is that this is never going to come about at all and A will be horribly disappointed that his dad let him down.
But we've dealt with worse. We'll figure it out. I just need to find out what's going on. I hate being in the dark, you know.
I dunno, maybe A would benefit from unlimited access to 99 cent shirmp cocktail, Celine Dion concerts, and legalized sin.
Kidding.
Really, has M followed through on anything of this magnitude ever in his life? Ever?
My sister has problems with her ex making promises to their son, only to never come through. She tries to soften the hard life lesson that hits him with by always following through with her own promises to him.
I hate it when they build up their hopes, only to disappoint the kids...I know this scenario all too well!
*hugz*
You know how I feel about this. What a doofus. Why did you divorce him again?
:)